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[quote=Anonymous]My in laws are doing a major home renovation (new kitchen, new floors, paint, etc).

We recently (1 year ago) bought a new build home. My father in law keeps inviting himself over to our house on the pretense of wanting to hang out with our kids, but then when he arrives, he barely acknowledges our kids and proceeds with questioning every design choice we have made.

Mind you, we did not choose everything in our house because it was a builder spec home. He obnoxiously opens every cabinet of ours and takes pictures of the depth / width of shelves, colors, brand of oven range, appliances and even the shape of the handles and plumbing. Then he proceeds to tell me that the builder didn’t install something correctly so questions why something was placed where it was. I have explained to him numerous times that we bought a cookie cutter home and didn’t get the choice to customize everything and we were ok with that. But he won’t relent!

He has a contractor and designer who is helping them so it’s not like he’s needs to know this info.

He will text me mid day with an urgent message to send him the exact name of the quartz we used in the bathroom. When I tell him the info, he then proceeds to tell me that the quartz he is installing is better. WTF - I don’t care!

I have now started ignoring him and making him go through DH. DH keeps falling for the “I miss my grandkids, can I stop by to see them?” bit so he tells them to stop by, and then rinse and repeat. I’ve been hiding in my office when they come so that DH can deal with it but it’s literally driving me batty.

Their renovation has gone on for 9 months and they insist that we come over to see their progress. For the last month, I’ve refused to go over, citing one excuse or another. I’m letting DH go (who has gone begrudgingly).

And today, my FIL complained to my DH’s non-local siblings that we are not being supportive with their renovation. ARGH - we don’t need more family drama!

Sorry - I know it’s a lot to take in but I have nowhere else to vent. 
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