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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's years and years of learned roles and family dynamics. I don't think anyone thinks it's healthy, OP, but that's why it's happening, and it takes a conscious, proactive, long term commitment to break out of hard-wired behaviors.[/quote] +1 I'm kind of jealous of OP, not that she doesn't have these issues, but that she grew up in a way that she cannot even understand them.[/quote] +2. I actually have pretty good boundaries with my parents and they are generally respectful of my family’s time and space. DH is just now learning how to say no to his mother but, prior to that, if I said even a word against what his mother wanted I was “selfish” and “hated her for no reason”. I actually do like her but his prioritizing her needs over mine did impact out relationship negatively. [/quote]
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