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[quote=Anonymous]My Mom will often wax nostalgic about the "good old days," when we (her kids, who are now adults) were younger. For example, we would have a big Thanksgiving with all the Grandparents, Aunts/Uncles and Cousins; totaling about 25 people, and it was indeed a fun time; I have lots of great memories from it! However, as the cousins got older and had their own families, and the Grandparents starting having health issues and couldn't travel, Thanksgiving was scaled back to just our immediate family (my two siblings and our respective children). Sucks, but that's the way things go as people get older. However, around Thanksgiving time, my Mom will always go "oh, how I miss those big Thanksgivings! I wish we could have them again!"

The latest incident that made me think about this was that my parents were driving around the neighborhood where my Mom grew up, and found out that the house that she grew up in was recently sold. For some context, my Grandparents (her parents) moved out of that house 15 years ago, and when they did, the house hadn't been updated in a while. My Mom sent us the Zillow posting to the house, and it's been pretty updated (granite countertops, stainless steel appliances, etc). When she texted us the listing, my Mom was saying how sad it was that the house seems to have lost it's character, and it just "looks like a characterless new build." My Grandparents have been out of the house for 15 years! Did you expect the new owners to keep the house as is as a shrine to them?

Anyways, I'm not trying to say that my Mom has inaccurate memories of "the good old days," because we did have a great childhood! However, is it a little unhealthy that she seems to have this strong attachment to the past? [/quote]

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