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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH (30) and I (30) have been married for two years.  He is a great guy - kind, affectionate, and responsible.  However, I am concerned about his drinking habits.  (6-7 drinks on the weekdays and more on Fri-Sun.). The drinking is not affecting his work or his driving but it does cause him to become clearly drunk, annoying to be around, and uncoordinated.  Sometimes, say maybe once a month, he drinks alone to excess, which also worries me.  I told him that I was concerned about the drinking but oftentimes he would just get defensive or mad at me, say that he it doesn't affect him and divert the conversation instead to a laundry list of issues he has with me.  After some time, we finally agreed to no hard alcohol during the week because of my concerns.  However, the wine consumption just increased to sharing two bottles of wine on weeknights, the majority of which he would drink.  Today after work I started making dinner and noticed he had drunk an entire bottle alone even before I was finished with work.  He drank the majority of the second bottle as well.  I probably should have let it go, but I said that I was concerned about the quantity of wine he was drinking, particularly drinking alone, and that I wanted us to try to do a few weeks of not drinking.  He had promised to not drink with me when we start trying for kids, but I honestly want to see if he means that and can actually do it.  He again got defensive, called me names, told me how I was wrong about a myriad of other issues in our relationship, and he refused to address the issue.  This has happened numerous times.  It gets to the point where I don't even want to talk to him about how I feel anymore because I know I am just going to be attacked for something unrelated.  But maybe I am being overbearing by attempting to control his drinking.  Do I just let this go and stop bringing it up?  What can I do?  [/quote]

Is the term starter marriage still being used.[/quote]

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