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[quote=Anonymous]Your husband has a drinking problem/alcohol use disorder or whatever label you want to put on it.

Full disclosure - I'm 20 years older, a woman, and I'm the one with the problem. I was not up to a bottle of wine a night at 30 years old, but close enough. My husband and I had a boozy lifestyle with boozy friends and that continued for a long, long time. And society is pretty accepting of the level of drinking you are describing. In my 30's, I laughed at the one healthcare provider that asked if anyone had ever suggested I had a drinking problem because I said I drank 3-4 drinks at a time on 3-4 days a week. The reality was it was at least 3 drinks a night every day of the week. Even when I had literally everything under control personally, professionally, and worked out like a maniac, I had a drinking problem. I'd like to say that I got help and solved it but I didn't and am probably lucky I am still married and have a job. It is now an enormous albatross dragging down my entire life and I am trying to figure out the way out.

Anyway, I suggest therapy for you with full disclosure to your therapist that you are trying to figure out your marriage and whether you should stay in it. And truth with your husband. Yes, he's going to be a defensive as$h0Le because he wants to continue to drink. I am very sorry you are going through this. But I do know a lot of people that have turned a corner and just given it up. I am hoping that can be your experience. Good luck.[/quote]

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