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[quote=Anonymous]First off - my sisters and I have a great relationship and this isn’t something that creates any real conflict. It’s just something I’m quietly resentful of

I have two much older sisters, technically half-sisters, they have a different father.

Growing up, they sort of teased me for being spoiled, sheltered, and un-streetsmart.  At the time, they weren’t wrong, but none of this was my fault. They are Gen X, raised as latchkey kids, were given a lot more independence and freedom growing up in the 80s. I’m a millennial, and I guess norms had just shifted by the mid-90s and parenting changed to be more hands-on by then. My parents also started to make more money by then, so I was spoiled with more “things” after my sisters had gone to college, and I wasn’t pushed to work a summer job until I was 18. They also teased me for lack of financial independence because I was kept on the family cell phone plan into college.

15 or so years later, the tables have turned. My sisters’ father, who ended up making a lot of money in Big Law after he and my mother divorced, died and left them everything. One of my sisters got a house for free. She’s now a SAHM and her husband works for Big Pharma. They gained equity on their first house and now own a 5000 square foot McMansion. My other sister married young into a wealthy family and also got a free house and free private school education for her kids. She works part time and has all this free time for her art and design hobbies and her dogs.

Me, I’m over 30 and not married. I have student loans. I have a mortgage. I’m doing pretty well (not by DCUM standards but in the grand scheme of things, six figures is doing well). I work in a great job I had to earn my way towards through education and hard work. My sisters were both C students at lower-tier schools and never worked that hard, academically or professionally. They had the fortune of starting off with money and marrying well, earlier in life. I love them dearly, don’t get me wrong, but I sort of resent how they have much higher standards of living without having to actually work for it. I suppose I could be proud of being a self-made career-woman, but my sisters still think of me as a pampered spoiled 90s kid (and I was “spoiled” with things like summer camps and Christmas gifts, not fully funded tuition or anything).

Anyways, sorry for the long post, I’m just venting silently what I wouldn’t ever want to say out loud to my family. [/quote]

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