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[quote=Anonymous]This being "dump 'em" DCUM where posters love to tell OPs just to ditch people, feelings and past history together be damned, you're going to get those kinds of replies.

But I would say, as you seem to like her other than this one huge blind spot she has about your time -- If your job has some daytime flexibility, can you schedule daytime meet-ups well in advance? For instance: "Hey, with the job I can't hang out during the days. It can work if I schedule it, though. I could have coffee Tuesday the 22nd, any time before 11. Can we schedule that as a definite date?" Etc. I'm betting you've tried that and she has had to cancel due to kids etc. in the past, maybe. But if it's during the school day, would that work?

She seems as if maybe she doesn't have other friends to see, or doesn't have a lot occupying her.

If she continues to pressure you, and she is pressuring you annoyingly hard (I do see that) -- I'd put the ball in her court and say, "I like seeing you but we've already discussed how weekdays don't work for me, and after-school times and weekends don't work for you. What do you suggest? Can you come up with some dates and times that work for us both?" I'm thinking she might get balky and just expect you to drop things during the day but it's worth trying.

As for her DH's "weekends are 100 percent for family time!" stuff, unless he works some job where he truly never sees his kids at all during the week, he's being ridiculous. An hour or two-hour meet-up for a walk or coffee and chatting is not going to devastate anyone's weekend family time. Maybe he doesn't want her to leave him alone with their kids! [/quote]

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