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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There's a topic in midlife concerns about people going through their parents paperwork (after they're dead or moved to assisted living or something) and learning some painful things that their parents hadn't told them about.

I have some paperwork from my divorce that does not paint my ex in a flattering light, but it explains why we got divorced. I kept it in case I needed it as ammunition during the divorce, but that's over now. Part of me thinks the kids have a right to know exactly what happened someday. Another part of me says toss it out and forget it. I'm over it myself, but would the kids ever want to see it?

I'd been thinking about how my mom, who also got divorced, never told us the details of why it happened. We had to learn about it from her sisters after we were adults. I feel like if I told my kids, when they were adults, what happened, they might not believe it unless I could show them the written proof. They might just think I was badmouthing my ex, which I have made a point of [i]not[/i] doing.

Kids won't see this stuff for at least 10 years if ever.

I guess there is a remote chance we might still have a custody fight, but I doubt a judge would care about this information in that context. My ex will have a long track record of being a responsible co-parent since then, thankfully.

What do you think, keep or toss?[/quote]

I threw mine out when younger DD hit snooping age/the age a judge would want to talk to her before making a ruling. I did that because I witnessed firsthand my dad physically abuse my mom multiple times and it was still devastating to read their divorce records. Some things you do not need in your head.[/quote]

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