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[quote=Anonymous]Normally I'd say "let DH handle". But it sounds like part of the problem here is that somewhere along the way, someone either made an incorrect assumption or communicated something incorrect about what was going on. So in this specific case, I agree with the PP who suggested sending an email in which you cc your husband and FIL to explain the situation. You don't have to figure out who made the wrong assumption or passed along the wrong info -- it's not really important. But you should take this opportunity to clearly state that you never asked or expected anyone to do anything (much less cancel the event), but just wanted enough information to be able to make a health safety choice for your family.

Your MIL is being ridiculous either way, though. Calling you out in this way is obnoxious. It also sounds like she is eager to blame you for something that has disappointed her, which is a sadly not-uncommon DIL/MIL dynamic and a really toxic attitude. It's fine to be disappointed. But unless someone told her "Jane is insisting we cancel this event," then it seems clear to me that she is drawing some deeply unfair conclusions and is only too happy to lay the blame on you, rather than one of the many other family members who actually contributed to the cancellation.[/quote]

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