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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My wife of 19 years was diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer in 2017.  Through a course of radiation and immunology treatment she now has no evidence of cancer.  The problem is she continues to take prednisone and other hormone therapy.  She has insomnia, has all the side effects of prednisone (weight gain, swelling), is very lethargic, is very short with me and the kids.  She really stays up all night, sleeps until noon, then does her job from home.  She is usually on the couch with wine by 7:00.  Of course, sex and intimacy has been non-existent for the last two years, she generally falls asleep on the couch.  I feel like she isn’t doing the types of things she needs to to actually go on living.  If you research on line, she should be trying light exercise like yoga or Pilates, she should be going to a counselor, and I question whether someone can stay on prednisone for years.  I don’t know why I am writing.  It’s just hard.  I’ve previously had doubts about our relationship, and this has really been a challenge for what seems like a long time.  Is there hope?  How do I suggest she talk more to the doctor about the medication?  Or ask her to do things like go on walks with me, etc.?  She doesn’t want to talk when I bring these things up.[/quote]

Prednisone actually gives me energy! Sometimes the only energy I have is prednisone. What is kicking my butt is anemia, nausea, and diarrhea. As for sex, between nausea, diarrhea, and fatigue, it’s the first two that make me reluctant to do certain sexual activities. We are managing with HJs for him because it allows me to run to the bathroom if I have to. Sexy, right? Also, I came out of the hospital with chemo sores on all my mucus membranes (including my vulva) so there’s that.

Here’s the thing. DH just finished his own cancer treatments and recalls often that he loved me even when he couldn’t bear the thought of me touching his body. So we got really got at expressing love and even desire in other ways. Our marriage is really strong as a result.[/quote]

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