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[quote=Anonymous]I can so relate to you! I have only one child, and the weekend I dropped her off was so difficult. Our home was eerily quiet, and the same when I came home as when I left it. There was no one to cook for or to eat with. I wondered and worried about her.

BUT: I also started to enjoy the calm of not having to plan two lives. I enjoyed the freedom of eating when I wanted, what I wanted, where I wanted (without as much attention to nutrition, truth be told!). I realized how often they come home (for more than a month at Christmas time). And that was like a big celebration/having a VIP visit.

I have not been entirely successful at filling up my life, the way everyone advises. I still work full time, and with one less helpful person around, my weekends are full with my own chores and what used to be hers. I miss her often, but am less saddened when I see something that reminds me of her that I was freshman year. I just text her a photo, so she knows I am thinking of her. I look forward to our weekly phone calls (set something up, that works for her, so you know when you will hear how she is).

I loved being the mom of a little one, so don't really expect this phase of my life to be as fun. BUT. I am getting a lot of joy and pride in seeing what she is accomplishing, how excited she is about her future, the adult she is growing into.

So yes, experience your grief, one phase of parenting is ending. But you will still see your child a lot over the next few years, she still needs you and will bring you joy. Good luck with the adjustment, many have gone before you and should lend support.

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