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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DD is just over 2.5. We tried to do Oh Crap last Christmas but I was also nursing a baby and it was a disaster. We are trying again now (modified Oh Crap) and it's not going well. It's been two weeks of staying home with no bottoms on. We have had some success, mostly with poop ironically, but it's generally her holding it, refusing to pee on the potty and the peeing the second she stands up. She is anxious about peeing on the potty so she holds it, becomes uncomfortable, gets more anxious and it's spiraling. I am trying to keep is low key but it's hard when she's screaming and won't go near the potty. I don't want to make this worse, but will it only get worse the longer we wait? We have tried all the tricks- everything involving water, blowing bubbles, tickling etc. She is a pretty anxious toddler in general. [/quote]

She isnt ready. Dont make it a stressful thing. Back off for months. This is about control. She is withholding to maintain control. You can either say something like you know what? You are telling me that you arent ready even though I am ready for you to use the potty but this is about you not me. Lets try this another time. 
And then dont mention it. 
Then start in a few weeks with some new books. Talk about how every month you guys are going to get new books and Slip a potty book in to each delivery. 
Start reading about it and then only talk about it if she asks. Let her see you and spouse/partner/trusted adult go to the bathroom on a regular basis.  Then encourage trying the potty even with a pullup on. Then offer pullups or underwear and remind her that underwear means that you have to go into the potty. It wont catch your urine. Make a fun experiment of pouring water into a pullup vs underwear to show her the difference. 
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