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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Definitely find your own therapist -- you have the right to make choices for your life, just as your spouse has the right to make choices for theirs.

And you don't have to wait for your spouse to figure out their life before you make your own choices.

Sending strength. This is a tough one.[/quote]

+100

I have been in similar situations to you, OP, and this is really good advice.

When I was younger, a pretty casual relationship ended because my partner came out as trans and began to transition.

Later, a much much more significant relationship (a marriage) ended because my partner wanted to change the ground rules of our relationship from monogamy to non-monogamy.

In both cases, I was under a lot of pressure to adapt myself and my own sexuality in order to be more accepting of my partner's identity. It was very important to have an individual therapist to help me articulate that it was not inherently transphobic to be sexually attracted to someone with a specific gender presentation, nor was it inherently prejudiced to prefer monogamy over non-monogamy.

My partners had a right to be fully themselves, but so do I, and sometimes both people cannot be fully themselves within the same relationship at the same time. [/quote]

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