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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here is my question. This is a family/couples dynamic I have seen play out time and again. Maybe it will help me in my own life.

I'm nice, laidback, easygoing, fun to be around, athletic, smart (I think!?) -- and, somehow, never seem to get a guy to commit. Three of my exes have gone on to marry women who are domineering/bossy (I know this due to mutual friends and actually knowing two of the wives well, still same social circles etc). Like, not mean women, but the guys are on a leash.

My sister has a similar dynamic with her husband! It's always "whatever you say" and *eye roll laugh* "have to ask [sister], she's in charge!"

Do I need to be ... meaner? I feel like a 1950s weirdo asking this but truly don't know what''s up and tired of my friends saying "just be yourself" because that doesn't work. [/quote]

Hmmm...  Yes, some men want women to "be in charge" / do all of the mental labor of running a family life while they just ride along without being fully invested.  That is the vibe I get from "she's in charge!" type comments, that the men aren't wanting to be full partners.   Sometimes laidback and easygoing (man or woman) is code for unwilling to have/share opinions and responsibility.

I don't think that you being "meaner" would help.  It might be something else, or you just haven't met the right person yet.[/quote]

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