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[quote=Anonymous]I will be turning 35 next year and as the date approaches, I am wrecked with tremendous shame and anxiety about how little I have accomplished in my life thus far. I feel shame that despite my parents giving me every advantage since I was a baby, I have very little to show for it. I also am scared as most of what I wanted has not happened for me and I seriously wonder if it ever will.

Here are the goals and dreams I had:

- U.S. green card. I come from a third world country and when I came here for college I dreamed I'd be able to stay and build a life here. I am so thankful that I met my American husband so I do have residency. 
So this is something that I actually did accomplish

- Happy marriage. I generally have a happy marriage but we have had a tough road. Neither of us had any money when we married so I have personally REALLY struggled with my idea of getting married, having babies and having a house. We got married 6 years ago...and we have slaved away in low paying jobs until now, unable to move forward with dreams of a family and home ownership.

- Children. For as long as I have known, I have dreamed of being a mother. My immigration to the U.S., not having a work permit for a while and low salaries and graduate school loans for DH, we...never really felt we could afford a child. Now I am turning 35 and I feel so much regret for lost time.
- Home. Due to the nature of this being NOVA, everyone we know started buying beautiful million dollar homes starting at late twenties. Friends who we thought we at our income level, somehow had large downpayments and can afford to pay 6k per month for a mortgage! I am bitter and jealous with envy. I cry most days feeling the unfairness of it all.

-Career. My career is so behind due to studying history and dealing with immigration stuff. I am so ashamed of how little money I make and my role given my prestigious education.

Sometimes I feel so overwhelmed I do not want to get out of bed. I feel so embarrassed and ashamed when I hang out with others in our social circle in their million dollar homes and babies.  I am such an utter failure,  :? 
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