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[quote=TheManWithAUsername]I wouldn't assume his reasoning is pretextual. My wife regularly imagines subtext in what I (and other people) say, and I've known women who do it far more than she.

Re his job, did you tell him before he changed that you were likely to carry a resentment about it? Have you told him that you don't want to move (if that's true - you state that it's something that HE wants to do)? You two may want to resolve that conflict as a top priority.

If you haven't been honest and direct with him about those things, who's been chickenshit here?

He's obviously wrong about the fertility issue. Just pull the stats on that and show him.

I bet that he sees your lives as more stressful than you do. He may see more stress as a danger to your marriage, or at least your marital bliss. If you are in fact going to move, having a baby when you already have a toddler is a lot on top of that.

There's nothing wrong with him changing his mind about a second child. If in fact he has, he should be direct about that, of course. But it's perfectly believable that he does in fact just think that it's a bad time, and that he's rationalizing or simply wrong about the fertility issue.[/quote]

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