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[quote=Anonymous]We are 38.  Our DD is 21 months. I asked DH when we should try TTC DC2, and he said when we're more settled. He left his job last year and is in a new lower paying field. There is potential for income growth eventually, but he will be lucky to make as much as in the field he left.  I have been considering changing jobs within my own field, possibly in a different part of the country, but have a stable job I don't hate that brings in 80 percent of our income.  He thinks we'll be more settled in 2 or 3 years and since he really wants to leave the area, he thinks I should find a job somewhere else first (ignoring the fact that I have paid maternity at my current job but probably wouldn't be entitled to much in a new job).  I am well-qualified, but my field is fairly specialized so jobs aren't easy to find. And I have a project at work that I should really see through so can't leave for at least 6 months. I told him we don't have the luxury of waiting that long, and he blew off my fertility concerns.  The subtext of the discussion was that he only wants one child, but he is too chickenshit to say so because he definitely wanted two before.  We can afford a second child, but just barely.  Now I'm so pissed I cant see straight!  Please either talk me down or validate my anger. [/quote]

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