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I think you just leveled up, OP, as the kids would have it :-)

The next level is to realize that she's emotionally stunted and a lot of her actions and words aren't something she can change about herself. So the goal is acceptance and distancing and boundaries.

My mother was the last of 7, neglected by both parents, bullied by older siblings, and told at one point by her mother that she was not loved and they wanted a boy in her place. It's no wonder my mother has a very immature way of understanding relationships and has no friends. She tends to be hypercontrolling, has no boundaries with me, can be terribly critical and seems to rejoice in the misfortunes of others.

So. Distance. Boundaries. Or as my doctor husband says: "I treat her like one of my mentally ill patients. Very politely, but without any emotional connection." [/quote]

OP here again. She enjoys a lot of panic, too. She hates where we live and feels that she lives in a superior place with superior schools that we basically turned our noses up at when we moved. So she'll read about our kids district, find something negative and declare see! see! this is such a bad district. Told you so![/quote]

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