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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just found out my spouse of 25 years has late stage alcoholism.  I have truly never seen my spouse drink inappropriately or get drunk- EVER in all this time.  From what I had seen, there was low-average drinking going on- 0-3 glasses of wine a week.  Come to find out there has been day drinking, night drinking, all in different containers, hidden bottles in the house, in neighbor's trash bins, etc.  There was obvious signs of a decline in functioning (unable to maintain employment, neglect of physical appearance, neglect of personal and family responsibility, but never thought the reason was alcohol.  I kept suggesting therapy, financial planner, medication for depression etc, but nothing worked.

What would you do in this situation? I feel so betrayed by the amount of deception.  I feel the marriage is over.  We have one child who is in middle school and I feel terribly about thinking of divorce, but this is not a healthy situation for anyone.  [/quote]

Definitely go to al anon.  Spouse needs to go to rehab but you can't make him go....he has to decide to go.   It is affecting the child as well so get some resources for DC.[/quote]

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