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[quote=Anonymous]I'm of the opinion that right after birth, the mom gets to decide who visits/sees her/etc.  You are the one who is going to be hormonal, breastfeeding, recovering from labor, etc.  While it would be nice if everything could be equitable from the grandparents' perspective, this rarely happens.  I don't think you are being unreasonable.

Your DH sounds like the real problem here.  He needs to recognize that this time is not about his parents or his being a good son to them and doing what they want.  And he needs to come to an agreement with you, not just override your wishes.  He sounds like he's dictating the terms here and that's pretty unfair.

It sounds like you two need to have a calm talk about all of this--figure out what setup you both can live with.  Maybe this means that no one stays with you for a few days after birth, but your mom visits often, and his parents come shortly afterward.  Maybe there's another scenario that would work for him and for you, even if it's not exactly what you'd imagined.

It's possible you will need to compromise a little but your compromise should not override your comfort level here.  Like you say, the days after birth are a tough time and you need to feel comfortable in your home.[/quote]

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