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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]During DH's weekly phone call w/ his parents last night, they apparently told him that they are planning on coming up when the baby is born (I'm 34 weeks).  As in, they expect a call when I go into labor.  They are also planning on staying at our (small) house.  My mother was going to stay with us for a few days after we come home from the hospital (my parents are local), a fact which DH knew and previously supported.  Now he's saying that my mom can just stay at her own house and visit during the day, as his parents will be here.  Problem: I don't want his parents here.  I want my mom.  I'm going to be going through a lot, both emotionally and physically, and I'm already freaked about BFing.  I don't want to be struggling with the latch at 2 am and have my MIL come in to see if she can help-I want my own mom.  I don't want to be sitting in front of my FIL and start leaking, or be crying for no reason.  Although I get along fine with his parents, I don't want them to be around at what is probably going to be a very difficult time for me (I'm a control-freak, so I know it will be rocky the first few days).  I can't believe they (and DH) would think that a) it is ok to displace my own mother, and b) that I would feel more comfortable with them than my own mother.  They say they don't want to miss anything, including visiting in the hospital, the first bath, etc.  DH sides with them, saying my parents will be here for it, when shouldn't his?  Um hello, because they made the choice to move out of the area two years ago?

I am beside myself.  I've been crying a bunch, arguing with DH, etc.  He won't even hear of them coming up later on after we get settled, or staying in a hotel.  I feel like I don't know him or his family at all right now.  Am I being really dramatic, or do I have a point?  Please help me get some much-needed perspective!![/quote]

Nope -you have a point. Those first few days and even weeks are less about other family members bonding with the baby, and more about mom's recovery, getting baby to nurse well, etc. Your DH is out of line. You might want to point out to him that you are likely to be walking around naked from the waste up with the baby quite a bit. How is his dad going to handle that?[/quote]

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