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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Next day.  He slept in the basement that night.  I wanted him out of the house immediately but gave him that time.  When I discovered I put on an Oscar worthy performance and did not act strange in front of kids.  We drove to a parking lot so he could confirm what I knew and I made him get out of car.  He walked home several miles.

We told the kids he had a work trip.  It was during start of Covid so even crazier time.

He was in an Airbnb for 2 weeks until I let him come home and sleep in basement at night.  Kids never noticed anything because he would get up at crack of dawn so they didn’t know he was doing that.

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This sounds awful, sorry you went through this. You mentioned your kids three times so I’m guessing they knew. That energy permeates and children are highly perceptive. Hope you’re healing well.[/quote]

Thank you.  It is very, very rough to go through.  Nobody understands unless they have actually gone through this in a long marriage with kids.

The kids did not act any differently.  Happy, goofy straight A students.

We talked to our therapists about that specifically.  If there’s one thing spouse and I are in agreement on, we’d lay our lives down for our kids.  Fiercely protective.  My husband’s father was a monster —serial cheating, bad drunk/alcoholic and we do not want the “75% of boys whose fathers cheat end up cheating” to carry down another generation.  Husband went into therapy (I thought it was for anger management) long before I found out and had already ended the affair.  He was working through many things from childhood.  His therapists and our couple’s therapists gave us lots of info to watch out for, but they all said it sounds like our kids are blissfully unaware.  Zero changes, lots of friends, lots of laughter, sports and straight As in difficult courses.  Zero change in their behavior.  They are at age where they are more self-absorbed and into friends, etc.

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