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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I mean....do you like him? Is he an enjoyable companion? Do you enjoy having conversations with him and doing activities together? Does he make you laugh?

What do you gain from the relationship?

As for money, he will be entitled to half the marital assets that exist at the time of divorce.[/quote]

I like him and generally enjoy being with him, except any stressor comes and it just erupts. he hates that I don't laugh at his jokes, and instead roll my yes at it. Do I pretend they are funny when they really annoy me? He likes things I find shallow. he is mad that I used to enjoy them with him, but add three kids to the mix, and guess what-- we can't binge watch tv shows all weekend anymore. we can't eat doritos for dinner.

What do I gain? A partner, a tax break, insurance coverage if I were to lose my job, a co-parent. He is the father of my children so i don't want to fight him.  I am more scared of what I lose to be honest-- time with my kids. We do not agree on parenting choices at all. We do not agree on where to live. He wants me to get a higher paying job, and I don't, because i want to spend time with the kids. He doesn't want to get a higher paying job because he thinks I have the higher chance of getting a much higher paying job (I have a PhD, he doesn't, plus he is government whereas I take the high risk high pay job with no pension).  I think our income is enough if he wasn't spending so much on his hobbies: boats, bikes, legos! He contributes a fixed amount every month which he calculated based on the income disparity. All vacations, eat outs, hospitalizations, home repairs are on me. Even the cost of the divorce is entirely on me and he says he will hire the most expensive lawyer and I will have to pay up. He resents that I don't allow him to invest "our" money according to his choosing. I don't see it as "our" money. If he contributes a fixed amount, then my savings contribution should also be a fixed amount. We work the same hours. My schedule is less flexible but anytime I am free, I do pick up and drop off. Weekends I have to beg him for time off from his hobbies. [/quote]

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