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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a rape victim myself (by a stranger, held at knifepoint - 28 yrs. ago), and I have no advice.  I feel for you and I feel for her.  It's so fresh for her, you know?  Can you talk to her, openly, and be very frank?  Be kind, but tell her your thoughts, but don't tell her that you can't be there for her, you might send her off the edge.  Being raped, or almost being raped, is just so fucking traumatizing - I still, to this day, can't believe it actually happened to me.  I never tell anyone either, because of the stupid responses, or weird looks, it's as if I'm some leper.

Help her find someone to talk to.  I understand her pain and your pain - it's something that should never never happen to anyone.  [/quote]

It sounds like she has PTSD. Can you look for resources in her area? Maybe the DC Rape Crisis Center or your therapist could heol identify some names and numbers. I'd actually talk to her DH and have him make the calls. Real help needs to come from him for a number of reasons and he is probably traumatized as well. Maybe Google crime vicitms and her town, there might be resources thorugh the justice system as well. Hope the guy was caught and prosecuted. I'd think of yourself as the temporary help, if she feels so frantic I'd not cut her off, but work to get real help. We all have different degrees of resillience.[/quote]

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