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[quote=Anonymous]Hello all.  So let me give you a bit of a back story.  About 2 years ago, I was drugged,raped and beaten by an acquaintance .  Through therapy and my own will, I have been able to overcome the trauma.  I lead a normal life and have a healthy sexual relationship with dh and other than some anxiety if I'm somewhere alone, I really have no lasting issues. About 9 months ago my friend was assaulted while opening her door.  A man grabbed her and tore off her jacket and pinned her in the doorway trying to force his way in.  Thankfully, a neighbor heard her screams and the guy ran off..  now,here is where I'm a terrible friend.  She cannot move past what happened.  She makes her dh sleep in another room because she is both mad at him for being away on business when it happened and because she has panic attacks if anyone gets too close.  She took a leave from her job because she couldn't stand to be on a crowded t (our subway) and she does not drive.  She refuses to see a therapist and instead uses meas one.  Here is where I'm an awful friend. 1 (and I am working on this with my therapist) is that deep down, I am resentful that she was assaulted in her doorway but constantly comments to me that our situations are similar.   2. I'm getting mad and frustrated that she refuses to get on with her life.  She always asks what I did,and when I explain that I made a choice not to let it ruin my life she yells at me.  I'm at my whit's end and have mow started to dread her texts and phone calls.  I feel awful that I don't want to be there for her anymore,but her depression and refusal to move on forces me to relive again and again something ive tried very hard to move past.  This is mostly a vent because I'm so ashamed of some of these feelings, I wouldn't even tell my therapist.  Is there anyway to kindly tell her shes ruining her life because she refuses to move on[/quote]

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