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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]“Whether or not it ‘just’ stems from jealousy, her behavior toward me is hurtful. I am also hurt that you never defend me, you simply excuse her. [b]I will not be spending time with her until her behavior toward me significantly improves.[/b] That’s my decision and we do not need to discuss it.”[/quote]

This is putting a burden on them that they may never be able to meet, especially as they grow older.  You can't expect them to take responsibility for her behavior.  You are punishing the wrong people.[/quote]

It's not your parents job to take sides between their ADULT children.  OP shouldn't need Mommy and Daddy to "defend" her.  (1) Don't tell them about her being mean to you; there's nothing they can do.  (2) You control how much time you spend with her; don't spend any time outside of real family obligations.  (3) If you do decide to spend time with her, perhaps when visiting your parents, and she is mean, it's your job to react: leave the room/walk away.  If they try to excuse the sister, just say, "Please don't defend her to me.  Her behavior was intentionally hurtful, and there's no excuse for it."  [/quote]

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