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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband and I have two daughters. Life is great, no complaints. I feel like we have time for ourselves and time for our kids and two parents + two kids works out pretty damn well.

However, we both originally said we wanted three. And we are both still up for it! But I think we also both recognize that life is good and easy right now. Sometimes I think that it's great and throwing one more into the mix is a bit unnecessary and sometimes I think how wonderful it would be to have a bigger family and give my girls another sibling and to just have another baby. Sigh.. we go back and forth every day. What made you decide to go for the third or stop at two?[/quote]
For me, we stopped at 2 because of daycare/college costs, wanting to be done with the pregnancy and the baby phase, and wanting to get back to some semblance of normalcy. Your "life is great," eh? That sounds so nice to me, who is still in the thick of it. How old are your kids, OP? If you've forgotten how hard the baby years are, you also are likely discounting how difficult adding a third into your life will be. Older kids want to go/do fun things. And the third will just be carted along to whatever activity. I, personally, can't wait until I have time for myself again. Do I sometimes think "hey, a third might be nice"? Sure. But then I remember how much effort it's taken to get to where I am. And how much I enjoy five minutes of peace and a full night's sleep.

Ultimately, this is a question only you can answer. [/quote]

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