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[quote=Anonymous]I've been dating a woman for just under two years.
We are both divorced.
She is the gregarious, fun, vibrant type.
Generally speaking we have a good relationship...really good.  I think she is the one for me and vice versa.

Preface: my gf has gone out with friends, work friends, girl friends, for drinks, trips, and so on.  And, none of that has bothered me.  I know at conferences she is one of a couple of women in a sea of men away from their wives.  I trust her to handle herself.  Doesn't phase me.

But this--whatever this is--feels different and not happy.  See below:

A couple of weeks ago a guy she met at a Middle School sports event for her daughter called and basically asked her out.  He got her information from the team parent list.

She said yes to going out with him and said she would bring a girlfriend of hers, who is also single, along.  (He had no idea she was bringing a friend when he asked her out.)

The guy is divorcing.  He has been clear he wants to date--he is dating.

In asking, he said he wanted to talk to her about the whole dating thing.  He said he is new to dating and wants her advice.  That was the reason he gave for asking her out.  (Maybe true, but to me this rings like a pretense, just saying.)

The three of them went out last week for drinks and dinner.

After I asked my gf if she thought he really just wanted advice or was he interested in her.  She said, "I think there is some interest there."  In my view, her saying he shows interest is likely soft pedaling it.  Which I get.

She said she was clear with him at dinner that she was happily in a relationship.

In the end, this bugs me on a number of levels:

This isn't a guy friend or a work colleague or even an old boyfriend.  This is just a random guy who called her up for a date--to which she added a wing-girl.
He didn't ask her (them) out for coffee to talk.  He asked her (them) out for dinner and drinks.  That feels like a date not a let's get coffee, I want your advice.
He didn't ask her advice over the phone--he wanted to go out.
There was no real reason for going--my gf said that because the girls are on the same team, she felt obliged to say yes.

I didn't ask her not to go, or anything.  I didn't make a big deal of it.

A day or two after this, I told her the situation made me uneasy.
She said she understood that.  (She, herself, has some jealous moments.)

But her main Her response was this was nothing new, she gets hit on all the time and she deals with it.  I don't doubt that, but this feels different than a guy at a conference flirting her up.  She can't stop guys from hitting on her, but she could have declined what feels to me like a date.

I hate that this makes me feel unhappy, but it just does.

I would appreciate any thoughts...

Thanks

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