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[quote=Anonymous]If you only have 2 years on campus and you want the “away from home” college experience, maybe start by doing things on the weekends near/thru school — those things could be extra-curriculars or field trips or working as a research assistant or more informal plans with friends. Invite your parents/family to come see you at school some day/weekend, if that might be fun/financially feasible for them.  Get everybody used to the idea that, for now, “you live there.”

Then go home to visit when you feel like it and have the time/$ to spare. For me, that was just Xmas and summers (I went to school on the opposite end of the country and had 3 younger sibs, so family visiting me at school only happened once and it was a big deal).  My husband (same college), whose family lived an hours’ drive away, maybe went home every other month (max) and his Dad would drive up for dinner (maybe once a month). Our kid (less than a 2 hour flight away) never came home more than 2x a quarter and we visited her a couple of times a year.

Basically, you’ll probably be busy at school (all three of us were) and visits are for when people need each other or there’s a holiday or everybody realizes simultaneously that they’ve got the time/inclination to just hang out together. Avoid a set schedule/frequency (and don’t start out assuming that all (or even most) of our leisure time goes to family).

If you are the first kid in your family to go away to school (or an only child), this could be a tough time for your parents. But visiting isn’t the only way to keep in touch/let each other know you love them and that they remain an important part of your life.  Text, call, send them pix of things you’re seeing or doing.  Remember birthdays, ask how things are going, etc.

Good luck! It’ll work out, but how is up to you (plural), and there will be some times when you miss them or they miss you.  [/quote]

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