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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So I don’t have a mother like this AT all, and no MIL, but my father can be like this a bit and have a few friends like like this as well (so less emotional baggage, but annoying).

You could tell her to shut it, or snark at her, or stare and then not say anything, all of those would be much more satisfying, and probably what I would want to do (and do sometimes).

BUT, if the situation is well under control —like it was with the fries, why not just point out why you aren’t worried about it in a very casual tone  e.g., “She’s doing okay with her vegetables, and it’s important to us that she learn to self-regulate when she has food choices.”

I found with the people who provided unneeded ‘advice’ if I made it clear that I wasn’t an idiot who had never parented in a day, they stopped feeling the need to provide ‘advice’. It also helped a bit to throw in a bit of shade if whatever the parenting goal was something they struggled with.

Also,I didn’t realize this was a more [b]productive[/b] way to handle things because I’m a nice person, it’s because I’m a petty b***ch who has to be right at the end of the day…. ;-).  
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Word choice fixed…immediate obviously snark is always satisfying, subtle snark can be less satisfying, but maybe more productive in the long term. 
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