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[quote=Anonymous]Long story short: My dad's brother and dad were killed in a car crash when my dad was 12. His mom, understandably, really never was the same after that and sort of checked out.
My dad met my mom at age 16 and they got married at 21. They were together 50 years until she died in April.

He has been a mess since then and really relying on me to parent him. He asks that I call him when I wake up and when I go to bed. He asks to come over for dinner almost every evening (he does say it's ok if we have plans and seeks out other friends). He sends a lot of texts saying how lonely or nervous he is. He texts me whenever he is about to take a shower (afraid of falling). He is very open about how bad he feels.

I set him up with a therapist whom he likes.

Beyond that, I don't know what to do, but my dad says he needs me and my brother to "take care of him" and make sure he "doesn't feel abandoned."

I want to support him but it's also HUGE pressure. I feel like, if I have plans, he will sit home upset. If I miss a morning call (busy with work, late getting kids out to swimming) he will be nervous and text me.

I need some help here. He lives alone in a big house, where we grew up, and I would like to see about him moving to a retirement village. Is that a reasonable thing to bring up? Any other ideas?

I am also grieving for my mom but feel like I am being the parent.[/quote]

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