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[quote=Anonymous]Don't do it OP.

I personally know many families who tried to do the right thing for their pregnant nanny, including:

Accommodating a lot of extra time off for medical appointments

Accommodating even more time off for morning sickness or generally feeling unwell

Giving the nanny the day off every time their kids had even the slightest sniffle because she didn't want to risk getting sick during pregnancy (this ends up continuing even after baby is born because now nanny doesn't want to risk getting her baby sick)

Completely altering the job expectations because nanny can no longer carry the laundry basket up or down the stairs, is too tired to play with the kids so they end up watching more TV etc

Paying for nanny's maternity leave

Agreeing to let nanny bring her baby with her to work

In EVERY SINGLE case, the nanny stopped working for the family within 6 months of baby being born:

In one case, at the end of her first week back the nanny said she just couldn't handle it and financially she no longer needed the job so she became a SAHM

In another case, the family ended up letting nanny go after 4 months because she wasn't performing even the most basic of her job duties; she was completely absorbed with her own baby and never had time to engage with her charges. The parents, frustrated that they were coming home to a very messy house and children who complained that they were bored all day, ended up setting up cameras inside to get a sense of what was going on. This just confirmed that all day the kids would ask nanny to play and she'd say "I can't, I'm feeding my baby," or "I can't, my baby is sleeping" (in a ring sling). She was just telling them to go play in the backyard, or go color in a coloring book, or go watch TV, instead of engaging with them at all. The parents said the final straw was that they realized the nanny, who used to make the children lunches like chicken and pasta or veggie quesadillas, was literally feeding them PB&J sandwiches every single day because she was too busy or too tired to make anything else.

In another case, the nanny was consistently arriving 30+ minutes late, saying it was too tricky to get her child ready for the day and able to arrive on time. The family eventually, reluctantly, agreed to let nanny watch their toddler in the nanny's home. The family was frustrated because now they had to do pick up and drop off (not having to do this is usually a perk of hiring a nanny), and nanny was insisting they pack all of their toddler's food and milk as well. Additionally, nanny was no longer able to do the toddler's laundry or meal prep. They continued to pay her full hourly rate of course. Their two year old started talking about Michael and Charlie. They asked nanny about who they were, and nanny said they were neighborhood kids who sometimes played with them at the park.

Then one day they had something come up and needed to pick up their child early. Nanny started acting strange and saying it wasn't a good time, but the family insisted. It turned out that nanny was basically running an in home daycare out of her house, and was also watching two other children while she was caring for the two year old she was supposed to be nannying. So they were paying $21/hr for their child to attend an in home daycare with 3 other kids!

Don't do it. There's a terrible return on investment.[/quote]

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