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[quote=Anonymous]My husband and I had been planning to try for a second child. Our first is 2 years old.

I’ve been working for quite some time and would like to possibly take some time off after a second child.  Perhaps never return to work. While it seems that my husband will go along with it, I can tell he strongly dislikes the idea. He makes plenty of money and we have a large nest egg.  We could live a nice life on his salary alone.

I am trying to determine if I’m being stubborn because I’m reconsidering the second child. My career is obviously very important to my husband and I will end up resentful if I want to stay home but am pressured to continue my demanding job (lawyer). It all makes me very sad that he wouldn’t value a stay at home parent or my contribution at home.

He seems stressed about job security but this has always been the case. His insecurities don’t seem based on reality. He regularly has recruiters calling him and per his employment agreement, he would receive six months severance and his stock would vest  I am hesitant to stay employed just in case he loses his job.  Especially since I stand to inherit a decent amount of money from my family and we have plenty in savings.  His parents also have a $5-10 mm net worth, but there seems to be more uncertainty around his inheritance. I find the focus on my career and our income to be a little strange.  
  
Recently I hypothetically asked him if I could quit my job if I received a few million from my parents. He said yes. To me, this makes it seem like it’s all about money.

There is a part of me that wants to throw myself into my career and take an even more demanding job. After all, that’s what he seems to want from me. It seems grossly unfair that I’m expected to have the same sort of career he does and also have children.

I should completely rule out the second child and stay on BC, right? Or am I borrowing trouble? Has anyone been in a similar situation and happy with how things turned out?  Is it even worth marriage counseling to figure this out?  I’m not sure how counseling will make him love money any less.

The other problem is that I’m less attracted to my husband because of this.  [/quote]

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