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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your husband “stated” that he disagreed with the ref call, but he “stated” it so loudly that someone from the other team heard and came running over? [/quote]

This was my thought too.

Hear me out, take YOUR emotion out of it, and look at it from a different perspective...

Your son also may have a little shame associated with the incident / lost a little respect for your husband, because in your son's eyes, he didn't stick up for himself to the other dad and his dad needed another father to stand up for him.  He may look at it like this boys father emasculated his dad, and seeing this boy may be a reminder of how he felt when that happened.

Don't get me wrong, your husband 1000% did the right thing by not responding -- there's no reasoning with a hot head when they're enraged, as nothing good can come from that. 
Not saying anything automatically diffused the tension.

However, this may not be how your son perceived the incident and was embarrassed that his dad got screamed at and just stood there and took it. Boys from the other team could use that as ammunition to make fun of his dad.

Some boys at that age are all about "owning" someone else, and your son may perceive that his dad got owned.  Ugh, testosterone

This may be an unpopular theory, but none the less you may have to consider it...
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