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[quote=Anonymous]My 11 year old son is friends with the daughter of someone I'm close to, and we see them regularly. I like the kid, I like the parent.  But the dynamic between the two of them (parent/child) is pretty different from they dynamic between me and my kid, and a situation like this keeps coming up.

Kids are together, and they decide they want something.  Usually something where i don't have a strong opinion.  Today it was a popsicle before lunch at their house, another time it was permission to go inside to play video games at my house, it varies.  Kids ask.  Other mom says no popsicles before lunch, or no, I want you to stay outside and off screens.  My kid accepts that as applying to both of them.  Then the other kid throws a fit, and the other parent changes their mind, so my kid looks to me to see if he has permission to eat the popsicle, or go inside to play.

I'm torn.  If my kid was the one throwing the fit, then I would I say no.  If it was something I actually didn't want him to do then I'd stick with no, but usually it's something where I would have said yes if the other parent had said yes, and where my no was just backing her up, and to prevent rudeness (e.g. it would be rude for my kid to go play video games inside when his guest isn't allowed to join).

Anyway, would you say something?  Tell your kid "No, we're playing outside"?  Head this off by saying yes or no first?  
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