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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I really appreciate all the rational ans well thought out advice on here. I think what has me so distraught is I no longer trust him. He promises things and assures me and is offended when I express concern that his actions won't fit his words, then once again the actions don't fit the words.

Who is Cary Tennis?

I completely agree if he feels caught between us it isn't going well and I think the heart of the matter is just when I am convinced we are a team, he turns me into the oponent.

Re:therapist. I agree. I have been to one. With him my concern is one of 2 things...he's say he is going to shut me up, but won't go or he will share his rewritten story about life. Sometimes at social gatherings he tells complete fabrications about his extended family to make it sound like we are just one big Norman Rockwell paiting.

I also fear when any of them get ill or when their time comes to pass I will be demonized.

I guess I'm feeling the way I sometimes feel raising a child, but the rewards aren't as great. My kids will challenge me, push buttons and do all sorts of things they would never dream of doing to anyone else. They also want all the support to come from me and dad is the one to play around with every now and then. That is fine with me. I truly think parenthood has to be selfless and it is gratifying to see nurture them and see them progress. I expect the relationship to be all give. It's when my marriage turns into me being mommy which is a problem. I know there are phases when it's all about supporting your spouse and not expexcting much in return. That I can handle, but lashing out at me (verbally, not physically) is wearing me down.[/quote]

OP, I think you need to at least consult with someone who works with PTSD and child abuse issues. Kris Halstead is very good, she is in Bethesda. If the location doesn't work for you she can give you names. I was in a similar situation and waited too long, you need the right kind of expertise here. Best.[/quote]

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