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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wouldn't do an FET until I was sure I was ready to have another child. If I were in your situation, I'd rather IVF/bank embryos than feel pressured to rush a second pregnancy. It may be as time goes on you'll find you're remaining happy as a family of three. We have ended up being one and done, which I didn't expect when we started the process. But although we still have one PGS normal embryo on ice...I just feel like our family is complete and happy as we are, the more time we spend this way. (Also I am not sure I really could cope with another dose of the "threenager" year we're in right now but that is obviously a personal problem, LOL.)[/quote]

NP in the same situation.  Curious what you’re doing with your remaining embryo?  I can’t seem to let go of mine even thought I know I don’t want another kid.  Not quite sure what that means. [/quote]

Op here: this is exactly what I’m afraid of! [/quote]
Original PP and yeah, I do think about it sitting there on ice sometimes, and feel it more than I expected to to be totally honest. That's one reason it's still there even though I am happy with where our family is right now, so I really hear you, PP! And in a weird way I wish there were more because if there were, like, 10, it would be so obvious we couldn't try for them all it would seem less personal than...one lonely one that didn't get picked when we got lucky. But you know, when I start to get into a funk about it I sit down and think about all the science, how many embryos don't implant anyway - I had a couple of failed FETs and also a miscarriage so saw that on the personal level - and remind myself that while it's a [i]possibility [/i]of life, it's [i]not [/i]a life, and from time immemorial the universe has been full of possibilities that haven't been realized and that's both natural and, well, ok. On days when I feel spiritual I figure if there's a soul out there that's meant to be, it will make its way to Earth one way or another anyway. And when I'm feeling more pragmatic I figure it's just like a potential electrical connection that will never get turned on and it just...is what it is, no need to get upset about it.

(I will say I have thought about donating it but DH is very against that, which I respect, as I respect those who do donate their remaining embryos.)[/quote]

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