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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm the 11:03 poster. For full disclosure, I'm a straight woman, married to a man, with a 20 month old daughter. I have a lot of gay friends, some with kids, some without.

I think it's pretty normal parenting behavior to want your children to be like you. In my experience with the lesbian community (not super recent and not in this area), referring to straight people with kids as breeders is not uncommon and not always intended to be offensive.  I don't see this mom's hopes for a gay child to be any different than a straight mom's hope for a straight child, and there are any number of ways that a parent can wish that without sounding like a jerk. I think that this is all NORMAL. I don't think that the way this mom is manifesting those wants is healthy for the child, though. I agree with you that it would be lovely if she was more open to her child figuring out her own identity and becoming who she wants to be, rather than who her mom wants her to be. I think that it's a little bit naive to assume that your friend is automatically more open to all lifestyle choices because hers is "alternative." I've met some lesbians who are militantly anti-man and some people of color who hate white people. Prejudice is everywhere. Being discriminated against does not preclude that you will discriminate against someone else, for something else, in the future, as sad as that is.[/quote]

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