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[quote=Anonymous]I feel like the main reason I do 80% of childcare/housework stuff is because my DH absolutely refuses to multitask. Like he'll get up in the morning with our DC (great!) and get her breakfast (also great!) but forget to check her pull up or ask her if she needs to use the potty (very bad! undermining potty training!), leave all the prep stuff and dishes from breakfast on the counter instead of putting things away or in the dishwasher (annoying), and not make any effort at getting DC ready for the day (so we're late out the door and it's a massive battle because she's engaged in playing and doesn't want to stop and do those things).

On the mornings I get up with DC, she is fed, dressed, has used the potty, and her room is clean before she can start playing or do anything else. And I clean as I go in the kitchen so counters are clear. Usually I also get her lunch ready at the same time as I make her breakfast so it's in the fridge and ready to go. When I'm handing her off to DH, she might still need to brush her teeth or put on shoes, but otherwise she's ready to go. I'm not some kind of mastermind genius or anything, it's just obvious that this stuff has to happen and also that the longer you put it off the harder it's going to be and the more stressful our morning will be.

It's the same at bedtime and the same with lots of household chores or child-related stuff. He wants to do exactly one thing at a time and just never thinks about what comes next or what has to be done before, say, we leave the house in the morning. And he thinks that our workload is even because he might same the same amount of time with DC in the morning as I do, but the difference is that all he's done is keep her mildly occupied, whereas I would use that time to actually accomplish things we need to get done.

Anyway, not to assume every man has this same problem but it seems like a common one and I'm just wondering what the deal is because I'm exhausted and tired of batting clean-up all the time with no runners in scoring position because my DH struck out looking. He's a good and attentive dad otherwise but this is really starting to drive me crazy.[/quote]

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