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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My dh would have confronted the boys immediately, regardless of what my dd wanted. I’m not sure how you handle this after the fact. Your dd will probably have some very strong and confusing feelings about the whole thing. [b]She needs to learn that standing up for yourself is empowering and being passive gives the offender all the control.[/b] Now she will remember feeling embarrassment and helplessness. It’s far better to remember the way you exerted your own power.

Almost 30 years later, I still beat myself up for not stopping a teacher who used to give lots of us unwanted back rubs. One day he sat down next to me and put his hand on my thigh and left it there. I have long felt that I was complicit in allowing him to do this to other girls. I teach my dds that they don’t have to know the right way to handle a situation like this, because that’s what parents are for. I’ll know how to handle it.[/quote]
I disagree with this. Her DD did the right thing. She was outnumbered and, especially given the ages, likely a large differential in size. Getting to physical safety with someone trusted was absolutely the right thing to do. Her father, however, failed miserably. A father is literally the one man a girl should be able to trust unequivocably with her safety. He just taught her that a someone can physically harm her right in front of him, and he's willing to act like it's NBD. He absolutely should have shut down the idea that she had anything to be embarrassed about right then and there (regardless of whether she still went back to her room). The only people who should be ashamed are the little rapists-in-training who would touch a girl within eyeshot of her father. And now the father, who decided to let them get away with it.[/quote]

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