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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would a) wait until you’ve passed the 3 month mark (or whatever point after that you’re comfortable sharing), and then b) tell her over text so that she can have her reaction in private, and c) give her space afterwards if she needs it.

For the text, I would say something along the lines of “Hey, I have some news to share. Bob and I are expecting. I wasn’t sure how to tell you because I know you and Tom struggled.”  [b]DON’T apologize. DON’T say you weren’t even trying. DON’T go on about how this must be hard for her etc.[/b] Just tell her and acknowledge briefly you get it might be hard to hear, then follow her lead after that on what you share. And understand that she may back off from the friendship for awhile and it has nothing to do with you. [/quote]

PP here. This is her best friend. What's the point of having a best friend if you can't empathize with what each other is going through? She needs to know her friend understands and will continue to be there for her. I think she's guaranteeing a permanent divide in the friendship if she stays aloof and ignores how her friend is feeling. I think OP knows her relationship with her friend best, but if her friend has been that open and honest in the past, she owes it to her to be equally open and honest back. [/quote]

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