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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If SIL is mean to everyone, I don't see how it will cause any drama to stick up for yourself.  You don't have to do it in a rude manner, but you won't be revealing anything that everyone else doesn't already know already.

You might first start with pointing her comments out privately to your husband when she says them if he truly doesn't already notice them.  I suspect that he does notice them, but doesn't want to cause drama himself by sticking up for your in front of his family.  I would talk with him before the visit/trip and insist that he stick up for you this time.  That fact that this has gone on for so long without anyone saying anything to her about it or doing anything about it is just making the situation worse.[/quote]

NP here.  I suspect DH could have been SIL's "target" before he married OP.  OP, you just have to limit your exposure to toxic SIL. During certain holidays and certain things that you "must" attend, just be short and sweet with her, but do not engage.  She is looking for an audience - her dad probably didn't love her, who knows.  Point is, you are never going to really know why SIL resents you.  Maybe you make her look bad? Agree with other PP about "grey rocking" SIL. She seems mean spirited and antagonistic, and if you are surrounded by kind people, you probably don't understand her bitter mentality.  Be glad. [/quote]

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