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[quote=Anonymous]I have fraternal twin girls. When they were infants they looked like each other but now that they are older (3) they look significantly different — one looks like me and one looks almost exactly like my MIL. She is a copy of my MILs baby photos. It’s ironic because my other daughter has MILS name as her middle name. Anyway MIL obviously prefers her lookalike. She is always showing her off buying them matching clothing taking them around at parties to greet people together while DD #2 plays with the other cousins.

Yesterday after a family cookout she actually told me and another group
Of family members that we should switch the girls middle names so her lookalike is the one with her name and vice versa. She was like, they’re young enough and they’ll never know. It just made me sad when she said it. It’s like she is putting all of her energy into my one daughter. Other DD is getting old enough to notice and I know it must confuse her. I’ve tried pointing out things in a gentle way like “yes Larla looks like you but Brynleigh has your talent with singing, etc” but she’s just not interested. I don’t think it is at all conscious on her part.. Should I press the issue? Fwiw my husband sees it too and is the one who brought it up but is similarly undecided about how to handle.

I’m not my MILs biggest fan but I do want to get along. She has never struck me as a narcissist or even high self esteemed so this comes out of nowhere and I can’t figure it out. 
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