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[quote=Anonymous]I would look at nearby Maryland and Virginia for an OBGYN that is in network. I have found the BCBS customer line extremely helpful, and they may be able to help you find a few that are taking new patients.

Deciding to freeze your eggs is a very difficult decision because the success rates are much lower than with embryos. It also ends up costing around $10,000-$15,000 because of the monitoring, procedure, and medication. One reason I went with SGF is because they offer a discount based on your income. I also saved about $1000 because of discounts that the medicine companies offer based on income. For me it truly is a gamble, but I am in a place financially where I can afford to do that. Also I am not even sure I want kids so I want to wait and see if that changes over time so for me I am doing this not out of necessity but for the luxury of time.

Once you get your AMH, ultrasound, and karyotype (wish I had known about that!) I think you'll have a better idea of if you need to proceed now, or if you could wait until you meet a partner/are more financially stable.

Here are a couple of reasons I would consider waiting, but they may not apply to you, and you never know what may happen in the future. I think if you want to meet someone, you will, you just may have to be pretty proactive in the dating process. Some of these reasons unfortunately are based on your partner being a man because your insurance is likely not inclusive in its fertility coverage of same sex couples or single parents:

1. You could marry a partner and live in Maryland where fertility coverage is mandated if you end up having difficulty trying to conceive.

2. Even if you don't live in Maryland, your partner may have insurance that offers fertility coverage.

For me what my decision came down to was would I regret not having done everything I could if I ended up wanting to have a biological child, and I wasn't able to conceive naturally?

Try not to let this process start to terrify or panic you. You are taking the first step by trying to get those tests done. Then you can go step by step from there and make a decision for now. You can always freeze your eggs if you ever change your mind in the next few months/years or after you've settled in DC for a bit. [/quote]

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