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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Same. My brother and I are 22 months apart and have little in common. He's an arborist; I'm a corporate lawyer. I like cities; he likes the outdoors. He's non-confrontational; I'm happy to argue. He lives on the west coast; I live on the east coast. We're polite and reasonably friendly, but we both hate talking on the phone and we see each other once a year (pre-COVID). I am not sure what my parents could have done to resolve the fundamental issue, which is that we don't share interests.[/quote]

My brother lives on 100 acres in rural Maine.  He manages a home for adults with disabilities.  He doesn’t like confrontation.  I live here, work for FAANG, and am happy to argue. We don’t share many interests.  We talk a few times a week, make sure to visit each other, and our kids are very close.  I consider him one of my best friends.  Not sure having common interests drives a sibling relationship.[/quote]

I feel like it would help! We visit my brother's city once a year (though 2019 was the last time probably until 2022 because my kids are too young to be vaccinated). He has never visited us (he also has three kids). As I said, neither of us likes to talk on the phone. When we do see each other, without common interests or any common frames of reference, there isn't a lot to talk about other than the kids. I'm curious about what drives sibling relationships that's different from what drives friend relationships, because some people seem to bridge that gap and have a close relationship with a sibling they likely wouldn't be friends with if they weren't related, and others don't. What do you talk about multiple times a week if you don't share many interests?[/quote]

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