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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks - this is all helpful, terrifying, and frustrating. I really appreciate it! I'll definitely read that book. Hehe, and fwiw I'd heard about the plastic container thing and have used glass for years so hoping that wins me brownie points, right?

My mom had 6 pregnancies in 6 years before 35 but she was married and ready to have kids; I'm the oldest a woman has been in my family before marrying/trying for kids. I thought I'd have a partner by now, but that's life.

I don't have a regular OBGYN and can't find anyone accepting new patients - do you have any recs? I am not well established in DC yet.

[b]Honestly, the problem is this: I'm not wealthy and don't have family who can lend me money. [/b]I have some money saved during the student loan forbearance that I was and was planning to pay off 2 of my 6 student loans this fall, but it occurred to me this may be the only time in my life I can afford to pay to freeze my eggs without taking on yet another loan.

IDK. It just feels like a tax to pay for working on my career to survive economically while failing to find a partner while young enough. [/quote]

OP, would you consider donating eggs in order to get free egg freezing? That is a thing some clinics/ egg banks do. You are over the age limit for some places, like this one:

https://www.myeggbank.com/blog/how-can-i-freeze-my-eggs-for-free

But this place will allow donors up to age 35 (it's in London, but there's probably somewhere in the US that will go up to 35 if you look around):

https://www.londoneggbank.com/freezers/costs/

I didn't find It Starts With the Egg to be all that helpful. I would consider doing the following:

1) See if your doctor will order a karyotype in addition to AMH. My AMH was great for my age! Plenty of eggs. Turns out that the vast majority of them are chromosomally defective. If I had frozen my eggs without having the karyotype done, I would have had a false sense of security. AMH and the rest of the day 3 bloodwork is important, but it's not the whole story.

2) Consider freezing some eggs and some embryos. I froze embryos (using donor sperm) because they survive freezing and thawing better than eggs. A friend thawed her frozen eggs years later, and none of them survived the thaw. She never had children.

3) Don't wait to do this. My doctor told me I could freeze until age 38, but that it was unlikely to be worth doing after that. Sure, there are unethical clinics that will sell egg freezing to 43-year-olds, but that's unlikely to work out well for anyone other than the clinic.

Good luck.[/quote]

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