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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If therapy worked for you, what kind? If you found a supportive group of friends, how did you do that without any confidence?

My parents spent my childhood pointing out every little thing wrong with me. As a result, I have no self-confidence. I went to two different therapists but they just talked about my childhood and helped understand my problem in detail, without offering a solution.

I don’t get any external validation in my life. Professionally, I do freelance work that I really like, but it’s nothing great or impressive, my friends never ask or care about it. Honestly I don’t even like my few friends, they’re not very ambitious and kind of boring, but I can’t make any new friends, interesting people don’t want to be friends with me.

I’m married and my husband tries to be supportive but I kind of discount it when he says that I’m not mediocre because he’s my husband, obviously he has to say that. I also feel insecure about him not being that great of a husband (because no one has said he is, and also if he was, would he pick me?)

I don’t have any talents or skills, I’m just sort of getting by in life and I am tired of feeling this way all the time. It’s bad for me and my Husband and kids.

I think I need a huge amount of external validation to make up for what I didnt get as a kid. But how can I get that? My husband says I need to just believe in myself, but how can I believe in something without any evidence? I feel like if I just got up and decided to believe that I’m awesome, I’d be lying to myself.

Yesterday my therapist said this struggle might be life long and I’m horrified by that. I don’t want to spend the rest of my life like this. I would love to hear some advice from someone who’s been there.
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You get self esteem by doing things you are proud of or that challenge you. What would make you feel proud? Do it.[/quote]

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