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[quote=Anonymous]Good grief. Sure, see her again. You are way overthinking this and seem ready to find fault or drama where there may not be any.

Also: You had dinner last Wednesday and today is Tuesday, so it's been less than a week since you saw her--that's not a big deal. And her not responding immediately to texts etc. is only indicative of how texting and calling today has created an expectation that people should respond now now now. It is not "disappearing" to not get right back to you after one dinner date unless maybe you slept together that night and you had expectations of more. And you DID text after the date last week, you just didn't hear from her over a weekend. Not a big deal at this stage in your not-a-relationship.

You say you texted her "a question" on Friday and she didn't respond until today, Tuesday. To me that's not a big deal unless the question was truly time-sensitive (inviting her to something over the weekend, maybe). Especially between two people who are not a couple and not even dating regularly yet. I wonder if you're overthinking this and expect her to respond pronto. Maybe she wants to move more gradually than you do. Maybe you come on stronger than you realize. Give it some calm thought.

The ex stuff does not sound like as much drama as some here make it out to be. If it were drama with a capital D she wouldn't have told you for fear of scaring you off. The fact she did tell you, and was open about the fact she needed down time due to ex's intrusiveness, could be interpreted to mean she's comfortable enough with you to tell you that -- and isn't that a good thing, not a bad one?

Of course she could be a drama queen as some here are so eager to say, but you wont' ever know unless you actually date her. What you're describing so far is couple of dates, nothing more. You don't even really know each other yet but you're ready to write her off.[/quote]

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