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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]At this point I have helped dd1 more than my other 2 daughters. Not because I'm trying to not treat them fairly but because she needed it at the time. She needed help with childcare and I wanted to spend that time with my grandsons. She needed help financially and we weren't going to let her or the boys go without what they needed so we stepped up. If when my other 2 dd"s have children I will also offer to watch the kids because I enjoy doing so not because I want to be equal. Dd#2 is going to lease a car and we are paying some of the downpayment.

What I'm trying to say is not every situation/child is equal and you do what you can if they each need help. If they don't you don't need to provide something to even out what the other received. Neither dd2 or 3 have animosity towards us or dd1 because they understand the above. Heck dd2 has offered dd1 help.[/quote]

I mostly agree here.  My sister has received a lot more support in her life, and I couldn't care less.  She had some issues she needed help with, i  didn't have those issues.  Similarly, i guess my MIL did childcare for my BIL at some point, and I never even thought about being  jealous about that.

But at the scale of OPs example of hundreds of thousands of help on a down payment, I'd feel differently.  My parents don't have that kind of money for any of us kids, so no problem in my family.[/quote]

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