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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I am in a similar situation.  My sister has tried to have children but been unsuccessful for years, and when I see her it is extremely uncomfortable.  Add to that, my parents (particularly my Mom) totally see her point of view alone (which has been the case all of my life), and well, let's just say it is not pleasant all around.  The holidays are the worst days of the year for me.  I dread them with a passion, but I just suck it up and try to do the right thing by my own children.  The way I see it is my heart is open, if others are closed or dark, that is their problem.

As for your showing, you are blessed with a growing baby in your body, and there is NO reason you should ever disguise or try to minimize the wonderful gift you have been given.  You don't have to flaunt it by talking about it all the time, etc, but I would wear whatever you were thinking of wearing.  You will never please your sister unless she has a baby.  And, even then it will only because she is wrapped up in her own good fortune, not because she is all of a sudden caring about you.  You have to do what sits right with you, and makes you true to yourself.

At some point, you have to recognize that now you are a Mother, and that comes before being a daughter or a sister.  Your baby comes first.  You should be respectful of your sister's situation, as that would be unimaginably hard to deal with, but you also need to be able to celebrate your own life.  God knows, we have fewer and fewer reasons to celebrate in this world, and to let her rob you of your happiness right now is senseless.  Not to mention to stress about this, is not good for you or your growing baby healthwise.

Hang in there.  I REALLY feel for you.  It is only after a lot of struggling and soul searching that I have come to this place.

Hugs.

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